April 18, 2001

Peephole
An April "if project" Contribution

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95 degrees here today, folks. *95* degrees! For God's sake.


High/Low

High: Bon Jovi concert tonight!!!

Low: Not enough money this month to go buy some much-needed clothes. Wah.


Current Obsession

Working out, eating right, getting some sassy new clothes for summer.


Grin Source

My new word - "Reintarnation - coming back to life as a hillbilly." Also - "Ignoranus - a person who is both stupid and an asshole."


Singing

"Speak your heart and I will listen; don't go back we'll find what's missing..." All The Way - Journey's "Arrival" album


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  "If you knew that someone was watching your every move, how would you react? To what lengths would you go to prevent your secrets from being exposed?"

I suppose if I were a religious person, I would automatically say "God is watching my every move". On some level I think he is, though I'm not sure that I've ever modified my behavior because of it. I've asked for forgiveness for certain things, I've asked him to watch over Calvin and the kids, and my friends and family, and I've even asked him for guidance. I've never felt the need to rattle off a spiel of current events to catch him up on what's going on, because he should already know. To that end, there's no point in hiding any secrets.

We always tell the kids, "Act as if we're standing right there beside you, and if the answer is "no" then, the answer is "no" when you're alone." This is to try to get them to make wise choices and decisions in their lives. I'm not too sure how well it works. I'm absolutely certain that their behavior would be modified if they knew 'someone' were watching their every move. We give them their privacy, and we let a certain amount of things slide. Calvin says we "give them enough rope to hang themselves". Heh. The hangings don't occur very often.

Unfortunately, having secrets and keeping certain deeds and behaviors hidden from the parents is just a part of growing up. I did it a few times, Calvin could write a book on it (remind me to tell you about the time he burned down... well, never mind). There are things we've caught the kids in, things we knew about that we didn't let on to, and things I'm sure we have no clue about.

It's the lesson learned from making mistakes that's important. "That's the good thing about me, I never do the same wrong thing twice." An Anne of Green Gables-ism for ya. I learned fundamental values from the mistakes I made as a child. I further refined those values through the mistakes I made as an adult. And I strive every day to be a good person to everyone around me.

Because someone is always watching me, and I influence them in ways I'm not aware of. Calvin watches me, and can observe how much I care about him, how honest I am, and how genuine I am by my actions and behavior. The kids watch me, and I certainly want to set a good example for them, and be a good role model.

So, to get back to the literal interpretation of the question - it would depend on *who* is watching me, in how I would modify my behavior or to what extents I would go to to hide certain aspects of my life. For instance, I don't hide *anything* - not one thing - from Calvin. But I sure don't want the kids, or, say, my Grandmother, privy to my sex life.

~shudder~

If it were a mob of complete strangers (there are a ton of websites out there with peephole cameras whose subjects have no idea they're being watched), I'd of course want to *know* I was being watched. But there are only two specific places I wouldn't want "eyes" following me - my bedroom and my bathroom.

Other than that, if someone wants to watch me tappity-tapping away at my computer at work, and grocery shopping on the weekends, and watching TV, and doing the laundry - hey, it's their time to waste!


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©Laura Charon 2000, 2001.